September 09, 2005

Je m'appelle Elizabeth

eiffel-tower.jpgThat choice on the poll was more a hint than a joke....we're going to Paris!

(No. Not forever. Alas.)

But just me and him, our first time away from Bear for more than 48 hours. Yes. We're going. For my birthday.

He says it is so, and I believe him. I need to.

For so long, we've teetered on the edge of falling apart. As my therapist said (the good one, not the pill guy I just fired) a relationship can not be so much for the benefit of only one person and remain whole.

It's not that I have martyred myself. I am not a victim. But I have made some bad choices. I put everything I had in a communal bucket, but it was taken out in unequal measures. And I allowed that. I allowed him to take, and I just kept giving.

And finally, it was enough. We were all sick with the unfairness and unhappiness that brought. So I drew the line some time back. It's been a battle for us to change our ways, but now, maybe, he's begun to see...

So we're going to Paris. And I will have new underwear.

Posted by: Elizabeth at 05:08 AM | Comments (16) | Add Comment
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1 That's wonderful! Bon jour Paris! I'll keep my fingers crossed for you.

Posted by: Lucinda at September 09, 2005 06:40 AM (OPvIN)

2 If you're going to Paris you don't *need* underwear! Glad you've got a fun trip lined up.

Posted by: Philip at September 09, 2005 07:22 AM (R3FWx)

3 What Fun!

Posted by: cursingmama at September 09, 2005 07:25 AM (PoQfr)

4 MY FAVORITE PLACE EVER!!!! HURRAY! Oh, Elizabeth, you'll have the best time. It is an amazing place to rejuvenate a relationship and reconnect. I am so excited for you! Do you want suggestions? I lived there for a summer, it was amazing.

Posted by: halloweenlover at September 09, 2005 07:32 AM (cdEd4)

5 Ooo, have a blast! I've never been. Buuut, my husband and I did a 5 day getaway this summer for the first time in four years. It did our relationship - our CONNECTION to each other - a world of good. Now that we're done having babies, we'll try to get at least one weekend and one good, solid 5-7 day reprive, alone, each year. The kids will benefit as much as we will.

Posted by: JustLinda at September 09, 2005 08:20 AM (gJFD/)

6 Have lots of fun and fall in love over and over and over again.

Posted by: Jazzy at September 09, 2005 09:17 AM (f1i5A)

7 ohhhh, I'm green with envy.

Posted by: Amy at September 09, 2005 09:48 AM (OeHNk)

8 I bet you'll have the bestest time ever. But before you go, are you checking your gmail these days?

Posted by: RP at September 09, 2005 10:19 AM (LlPKh)

9 Yay! Have a fantastic time!

Posted by: A.K. at September 09, 2005 10:47 AM (MuI3T)

10 Bon voyage! Je voudrais allez aussi! (Was that 7th grade French or what! :-) ) I'm really excited for you and I hope you and CD have a wonderful trip.

Posted by: Soccamom at September 09, 2005 02:07 PM (CuxC8)

11 wow, that's AWESOME!!!

Posted by: kalisah at September 09, 2005 03:44 PM (C7RFb)

12 Paris with new panties. That is a dream I've held for many a year. ;-) Enjoy!

Posted by: Jim at September 09, 2005 06:21 PM (oqu5j)

13 Sounds wonderful!! I'm so jealous - of Paris and the alone time with your husband. Have a fantastic time!!

Posted by: Jules at September 10, 2005 02:31 PM (CK4zV)

14 I love Paris in the autumn... (wrong season, but still a good song for the occasion). How lovely! Enjoy the sights, the smells, the sound of that lovely language everywhere. Eat a crepe from a sidewalk vendor. Take a boat trip down the Seine. Rest, rejuvinate, rediscover. And avoid the dog poop.

Posted by: Mary at September 12, 2005 12:57 AM (fsliW)

15 I'm so jealous. Autumn in Paris *le sigh* Have a wonderful time, you so deserve it.

Posted by: karmajenn at September 12, 2005 03:02 AM (fx1A8)

16 Wow! Awesome! Eat some French Ice Cream for me!!!! Have a great time!!

Posted by: Eyes for Lies at September 12, 2005 04:14 AM (QhI+Z)

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